2-way street

Being considerate towards each other, this approach is suitable not only for finding your way in the traffic but also in finding your own way in the job market.

The official “Highway Code” issued by the Department for Transport says: “It is important that all road users are aware of the Code and are considerate towards each other. This applies to pedestrians as much as to drivers and riders.”. Being considerate towards each other and do not forget that you’re not the only road user, the other users also exist and they must be respected and treated equally!

Good words, very wise ones. It’s clear this approach is suitable not only for finding your way in the traffic but also in finding your own way in the job market.

Somehow it turns out a lot of employers do not have any understanding of these rules, or maybe they just did not read the “Highway Code”?

A very standard job description (thousands of which are now published at the job searching sites) points out and underlines the only thing: that’s the company who makes a choice. It’s emphasized by all means: they are searching for exactly this type of person; they set the deadlines and the date of assessment which requires a certain number of applicants. Which sounds really strange – even if you totally fit in this job, they will not take you without making a contest. Ha! Competition is a crucial point, you don’t have to be just good or excellent, you have to fight and compete, and only when you win, you’re good enough. Very spoilt logic in my opinion.

They politely inform you that if they are interested in you, they will contact you, and say directly that if you were not contacted within a certain period of time – that’s because they did not see any interest in you. Alright. Sounds quite fair but for one exception. Just very few of them remember about the candidate and his interests. Strange? Yes, indeed!

Slavery was abolished a long time ago, we live now in the age of individual freedom, free and open market, and personal awareness. The company search for right people, the right people search for right companies. That’s how it works ideally – a two-way street functioning on the base of the official “Highway Code” and the respect towards each other. Ideal does not always mean real. And very often the second party of this contract is unfairly forgotten, sometimes even not mentioned. What does this job-seeker want? What exactly does he/she expect? What is he/she searching for?

Instead of carrying on fair negotiations with the candidates, the company chooses a strange way – to make them feel in need. Sometimes even worse – they make them feel low and insignificant. They are offered to make tons of tests and tasks, to imitate a real situation, to sell something/to buy something, to speak/sing/dance, God only knows what else, and finally to prove they are good enough for this place. And then, for a dessert – my favourite one! “Mmh, why should we choose you?” Pause. Applause.

Good when it goes as a dessert, very often this question is asked after 5-10 minutes talk, after the poor candidate had been investigated about his previous work experience and professional strengths. He-l-l-o-o-o! For that exact moment the candidate did not ask you to take them! They didn’t even have the chance to put in their questions: what about the company, about its strengths and weaknesses, about the salary and conditions?

The candidate is selling him/herself, right, but the price must be negotiated, don’t you think so? Otherwise, it’s not a two-way street, it’s the backyard of your house, where you govern and reign with the caveat, that your backyard is very limited. It’s limited by your own fence and the proprietary rights. And the real life is running behind this fence, that’s where the two-way streets exist, where both pedestrians and drivers are considerate towards each other. And where they all do respect the official “Highway Code”.

Terminator for 7 pounds an hour

The last month was the month of “indeed” – almost every day I was exploring a job searching platform in the hope of finding something valuable. Something that makes me interested and excited.

In 95% the future employers do not know exactly who they’re searching for and they look for a person totally opposite to an “ideal candidate”.

I read hundreds of announcements where the future employers were looking for the potential parts of their teams. And one fact surprised me: in 95% the future employers do not know exactly who they’re searching for and they look for a person totally opposite to an “ideal candidate” described in their opus.

Here is the description of this ideal employee, a kind of a Terminator, who has so much advantages that a normal standard person would be ashamed even to stay in his shadow:

  • a perfect team-player and at the same time able to work independently
  • capable of taking decisions and dealing with the responsibility
  • proactive and energetic
  • multi-tasking
  • ready to meet new challenges every day (! EVERY day)
  • able to work under pressure
  • excellent communicator
  • perfect organizational and interpersonal skills
  • sense of humour
  • understanding of customer service and thousands of other tasks and duties.

Hello, guys? Who is this Mr/Mrs Right? Does he/she even exist?

The paradox is that for any innocent job-seeker this great description looks like the role profile of some middle-rank manager or at least senior specialist/head of a small department. Would be fair enough if it was so. Unfortunately, guys, these are the critical skills of an ordinary secretary/administrative assistant in an ordinary firm with a very ordinary budget.

Surprised? Me to 🙂 What surprises most of all is the innocence and inexperience of the employers mentioned above. Do they really know whom exactly they need? Or it’s just copy-paste without taking a thought?

I am not saying that these abilities are rare, unique and do not exist. They do. The point is that there is a contradiction here:

  1. or you need a professional secretary who has very strong administrative skills. This position also means the person is a 100% executor. Which is also good, because a good executor is a treasure.
  2. or you need a manager, a person who thinks independently and proactively, who can take decisions, risks and react quickly, who can manage the staff and take the responsibility. This person is another type of employee. He has something from an entrepreneur, a leader and doing routine administrative work is not his strength, he is just another type of person.

Is not that clear? You can not buy 2 for the price of 1! An excellent executor is as good as gold. So is an excellent manager. And if they’re excellent they know their price, they value their time and efforts and they don’t want to be a Terminator. They’re just not into this.

Making a difference


I want to do the things that I like doing. I want to be satisfied with the results of my activity and achieve something. And it must bring me pleasure. That’s what makes a difference!

Yesterday I was communicating to a person concerning my possible work for a certain organization. The discussion was going quite ok, although some points bothered me a little.

But when I woke up in the night, I suddenly realized – I just don’t want to do this exact job. I mean it’s fine, quite ok, close to what I did before maybe too simple comparing to what I had achieved. But that’s not the point.

I was thinking about the company who gives this job – they are doing what they are doing for some reasons. They find this useful, maybe the impact that their activity brings is crucial or they just earn money as they can and like it. In any case they do it for some purpose. They make a difference.

But why was I going to fit in this? What kind of difference am I supposed to make if I personally don’t find anything special for me in this job: it does not feel like a big challenge, it’s unlikely that I will learn something new and I am not going to earn money there (must admit I really like earning money and investing it for doing something good. That’s one of my peculiarities.). So why do I want to do this? Actually I do not. It does not feel good for me. Starting to invest my time and my efforts in this makes totally no sense for me.

If I do this because it’s quite a good start for an immigrant, right way to launch my future career here or the normal 1st job at a new place, that will be a big mistake. That feels in the same way as to marry a guy who is fine, quite ok, maybe nice and has a good potential but whom I don’t like, don’t love! The same bullshit.

I want to do the things that I like doing. I want to be satisfied with the results of my activity and achieve something. And it must bring me pleasure. This point is critical: this job must bring me good emotions, satisfaction, motivation and PLEASURE. That’s what makes a difference!